I gave a talk at the local RSD group here in Munich yesterday and thought I would write up some of the resources I mentioned. So here we go.
Hands down, the two best daygamers out there. Do yourself a favor and check out their stuff – most of it is free.
Both of them have excellent YouTube channels, which you can find here and here.
When I’m not doing the digital nomad thing, I am usually back in Munich, studying and daygaming. Here, the daygame can become as much of a chore as the studying: I just don’t like German girls, for the most part. Too plain, too masculine acting, and too boring. There are of course some very pleasant exceptions, but the aforementioned tendencies are definitely there.
So imagine my delight when I was strolling down the street last week and saw a complete, utter stunner of an exotic girl walking by me. I try to avoid the number system, as it is highly subjective anyways, but let me put it like this: I’m out on the streets EVERY day – and I maybe see a girl like this once a month here in Germany. Maybe. She is tall, slender, dressed all in black designer clothes and of course wearing outrageous high heels – my type down to a T. Her face and her hair are so beautiful; for once, I’m glad I’m recording the set.
Taking a critical look at my daygame efforts is the current focus of this blog. I want to explain to myself what is working and more importantly, what is not. From my experience, forcing yourself to write this stuff down is still the best way to do this.
Okay, so what have I been doing?
Inspired by Krauser’s recent post “The Player’s Journey Blog“, I decided to get with the program and revive my own daygame blog. The idea from now on is to really chronicle my daygame development, focusing on sticking points and fuck-ups in order to eventually overcome them. I did this once in the past for a 30-day-challenge type of thing and it was very helpful, much more so than my other attempts at writing a pick-up related blog. In the most recent case, I ended up writing about too many other things besides pick-up and as a byproduct, gave in to the temptation of telling non-pick-up people about the blog. Big mistake. It’s much harder to admit to your daygame worries and fiascos when you know your non-pick-up colleagues and friends are reading your blog as well.
I’ve never been a huge fan of inner game — for several reasons. First of all, way too many people take inner game as an excuse to act passively. Instead of approaching, they sit at home reading Eckhart Tolle and doing their chakra meditations, fooling themselves into thinking they are actually making progress with Pick Up. I understand where this comes from: Reading a book on the couch is easy and comfortable, while talking to strangers on the street is a high-stress situation. People being people, they take the easy way out, even if that road leads to nowhere.
If you want to become good at game, you basically have two options — at least according to current Pick Up doctrine:
You can either become a clown or a cowboy.
So I’m walking around Namesti Republiky on a sunny afternoon, looking for some sets, and I see another dude doing a classic Yad stop to a slim, beautiful girl in a blue dress. Always interested in seeing how other PUAs do their spiel, I take a second glance and suddenly stop dead in my tracks: “Wait a minute — I know this guy. That’s Krauser!”
That, my friends, is the beauty of YouTube. You recognize people you’ve never even met.
How to do it
A few weeks ago, I started recording my daygame sets with a hidden body cam. I’d been thinking about doing so for years, and had even tinkered around with it occasionally. My first try was with one of those cheap Chinese spy cameras from Amazon, but the quality was so abysmal that I threw the thing away after only a few unsuccessful sessions. It was the Blair Witch Project all over again — completely distorted footage with terrible audio. Needless to say, I abandoned the idea for awhile.
In my opinion, there are 3 stages to becoming good at Pick Up. Understanding these stages is vitally important to assess where you currently are and where you still need to go.
These 3 stages are:
1. The anxiety stage
2. The shot gun stage
3. The cherry picking stage
Let’s look at these 3 stages in turn.
Among my numerous talents is a faculty for prophecy. I know, it’s unfair, but some people just get it all. So, let me tell you right now how your next attempt at losing weight/getting fit/making more money/improving your love life is going to go:
Stage 1: the stage of inspiration
Oh, you can feel it! The time for change has come! Maybe you just finished reading an excellent self-help book about how to get rich. Or a friend who just started Crossfit gave you a pep talk. Or Oprah just lost thirty pounds (again) and you know you can do it, too! So, let’s do it! Nothing can stop us this time around, this time you are really going to stick with it! Success is practically within reach.