I’ve never been a huge fan of inner game — for several reasons. First of all, way too many people take inner game as an excuse to act passively. Instead of approaching, they sit at home reading Eckhart Tolle and doing their chakra meditations, fooling themselves into thinking they are actually making progress with Pick Up. I understand where this comes from: Reading a book on the couch is easy and comfortable, while talking to strangers on the street is a high-stress situation. People being people, they take the easy way out, even if that road leads to nowhere.
If you want to become good at game, you basically have two options — at least according to current Pick Up doctrine:
You can either become a clown or a cowboy.
So I’m walking around Namesti Republiky on a sunny afternoon, looking for some sets, and I see another dude doing a classic Yad stop to a slim, beautiful girl in a blue dress. Always interested in seeing how other PUAs do their spiel, I take a second glance and suddenly stop dead in my tracks: “Wait a minute — I know this guy. That’s Krauser!”
That, my friends, is the beauty of YouTube. You recognize people you’ve never even met.
How to do it
A few weeks ago, I started recording my daygame sets with a hidden body cam. I’d been thinking about doing so for years, and had even tinkered around with it occasionally. My first try was with one of those cheap Chinese spy cameras from Amazon, but the quality was so abysmal that I threw the thing away after only a few unsuccessful sessions. It was the Blair Witch Project all over again — completely distorted footage with terrible audio. Needless to say, I abandoned the idea for awhile.
In my opinion, there are 3 stages to becoming good at Pick Up. Understanding these stages is vitally important to assess where you currently are and where you still need to go.
These 3 stages are:
1. The anxiety stage
2. The shot gun stage
3. The cherry picking stage
Let’s look at these 3 stages in turn.
If someone put a gun to my head and asked me: “What is the one thing you need to succeed with women?”, I wouldn’t have to think long – it’s the ability to embrace failure and never stop doing so. Easy to say, hard to do. Let me tell you my story…
When I first started with the whole Pick Up thing, I hardly had any expectations. I readily admitted to myself that I pretty much sucked with girls and that I would like to change that. But, I had one big advantage over other guys: I had already spent a considerable amount of time learning Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. And therefore, I really understood the importance of failure.
See, when you train in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, for the first six to 12 months, you will just get your butt kicked, all the time. That is a necessary stage though, it means you are learning about all the things you SHOULDN’T be doing. After that, it gets better, until you reach the next plateau. Then, the failure phase starts all over again… It’s an ongoing process, but in the end, it only makes you stronger.
When I started out doing Pick Up about 7 years ago, like most guys, I only did night game. I had read “The Game” and “The Mystery Method” and so naturally, I wanted to hit the clubs hard, like my heroes Style and Mystery did (minus the rockstar plateau boots…).
And to the clubs I went – on average 4-5 times a week. I got pretty good pretty quick at that pace and when I first started teaching workshops and 1-on-1s, I would always take the clients to a club, not to the street. I flat out told them that I was not the right person to talk to about daygame.